Wendy De Rosa answers the question:

What is the nicest thing a non-family member has ever done for you?


There's many. There's a whole list. And I have had to really think this through. One of the nicest things was that many years ago, in my early mid-20s, I was a musician. And I was touring as a singer-songwriter around the California coastline at the time. And I just recently moved to the San Francisco Bay area. I was living in the East Bay in Oakland.

And out of the blue, I got an email from this woman. I had put a post... Back then there was no Facebook. So basically, Craigslist was the social media tool so to speak and something else. I forget. There was another one at the time.

And I put a post out for something with looking for a booking agent... putting it out there in this particular feed. And out of the blue I get this woman who emails me from Austin, Texas, and says, "We're starting up as a booking agency, we're learning the ropes, and we'd love to have a musician who would be willing to let us work for you for basically free at the time, for pro bono. And if things start to increase for you, then we can proceed from there."

From the musician perspective, and certainly back in the day, you don't get calls like that. You don't know when he says, "I want to give you help for free"... because there was so much pay to play at that time period. I don't even know what it is now. But that's what it was.

And so I was really hesitant. Is this person for real? And she got a team together. And they started to book my gigs and do publicity and promotions up and down the West Coast for me. All of a sudden, I would have all these gigs booked. I was still pinching myself and a little bit skeptical. What do they want? They have to want something.

And long story short, we became very good friends. And they ended up... She brought me down to Austin, Texas, and did South by Southwest back in the day. Well, it still exists, but back then I played a showcase. I played a few gigs. And we developed a friendship. And the friendship continued.

Wendy and Heather in Costa Rica (July, 2019)

She brought me into her circle in Austin. And I became friends with her friends. We sort of expanded and basically formed this really great connection and friendship. So they ebbed and flowed, she ebbed and flowed, went into a different business, and we stayed connected and still talked a lot. 

And then it got to a point where somewhere in that process, my uncle had passed away. And he had left me a little of money, not much, but a little bit. And it was enough to go in on a house with my friend at the time. She said, "Why don't we do this together? You have this little bit. We can secure it in an investment." And I was really a broke musician at the time. I was also a healer at the time. I was still doing healing work. My business was getting off the ground, and I certainly could've used that money. But I thought, This is smarter.

So she and I invested in a house in Austin, Texas. And I moved down there and moved in with her. And we had this phase of our friendship. She lived in Dallas a lot of the time, but came down to Austin, and it just worked. We had this entrepreneurial life where I was in the house, and… our connection worked. And we were always doing different kinds of ventures together.

So we ended up selling the house. And I decided to move back to Colorado. And after that, Austin completely boomed. But a couple years later, she's in a position where she said, "These things are winding down. And these clients are winding down. I'm looking for the next thing." And I said, "I really need help. The School of Intuitive Studies is blowing up. And I can't do it all by myself." I was a solopreneur at the time. And I really needed help to grow what was happening and manage everything that was happening.

And so to this day, my business manager, Heather, who many people have been in contact with... If you've emailed the School of Intuitive Studies, she is someone who is full-on managing the School of Intuitive Studies behind the scenes and just doing an incredible job. And it's just quite amazing. Her level of customer service, her level of support, her level of kindness to people, and really supporting my team and people and students, just really a cheerleader on the back end for this whole process of what I'm doing. And so to this day she continues to back me, support me, be back there, and handling things that are things that are outside of me being... the business stuff. I'm here to be a healer. But business was breaking me down. It's hard to be a healer and run a business at the same time. And so she does that incredibly well. And that allows me to be able to do the programs and the offerings and the work that I'm doing now.

So it's just been an interesting thread from the very beginning that it was her act of kindness saying, "Wow, I want to help you because that helps me learn." And then from there this connection opened up, and it took lots of different courses. And now here we are working together again and just really on board with a bigger mission.

Out of this, we're actually in the process of the next venture, which is we're starting the National Association of Professional Healers. So we're now in this new role of taking the healer support more global, wider reach, national, and supporting healers through an association. So that's the next venture. It just continues.

So anyway, I'm so grateful to Heather for everything that she's done and how she supported me in this process and even helped me get to where I am now. And specifically with The Shift Network, she handles so much so I can be out there teaching. I'm so grateful to her. Well, that is one of the many.

Heather Carmichael and Wendy De Rosa

Wendy De Rosa is an internationally respected intuitive energy healer, speaker, teacher, and author. For the past two decades, Wendy has offered education and training programs for spiritual and personal growth for those wanting to develop their intuition, clear their blocks, and experience personal transformation.

Wendy is the founder of the School of Intuitive Studies and the Intuitive Healer Training Program. She has filmed two programs for Mindvalley.com’s spiritual growth channel, Soulvana. She’s the author of Expanding Your Heart: Awakening Through Four Stages of a Spiritual Opening and Energy Healing Through the Chakras: A Guide to Self-Healing.

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This article appears in: 2019 Catalyst, Issue 16: Kindness