& Author of The Queen’s Code
Alison Armstrong
With Live Q&A Starts
Monday, June 3, 2019
Unlock the secret code for truly honoring yourself — and bringing more joy and understanding to your relationships with romantic partners, colleagues, and family members.
Discover the “Language of Heroes” to call forth the best in ALL the men in your life.
Are your relationships still challenging, in spite of all the work you’ve done on yourself?
Or does it feel like the right man to share your life with just isn’t out there?
If you’re like most women who want to live life more consciously, you’ve gotten stronger, wiser, and more liberated over the years. You may have a fulfilling career, a deep inner life, and a community of friends you love.
You may also be wondering WHERE the available, conscious men in the world are...
Or HOW to relate with all the men in your life — not just romantic partners — in ways that lead to fulfilling relationships.
Even if you find a romantic relationship with a “good one,” things can go sour...
Over time, he becomes less available, less communicative, and less affectionate than he was at first. He might “tune you out” more often — or maybe he has bursts of anger, frustration, or withdrawal.
Slowly but surely the relationship withers, no matter how hard you try to make it work.
So you cast a wider net — maybe more dates, a better online profile, and greater hope that around the next corner you’ll find The One.
You may have a detailed list of what you’re looking for in your soulmate and visualize this person every day. You may do everything you can to make yourself attractive for that prospective soulmate. The goal becomes simply to “find him.”
But this approach misses a crucial part of the equation: the subtle signals and ways of relating that may be pushing your potential beloved away — or even slowly turning him into a frog, rather than a prince, once you’ve found him.
In Living the Queen’s Code with Alison Armstrong, relationship expert and author of The Queen’s Code, you can have a real breakthrough in your relationships with men — opening you to the kind of partnership you dream of.
Alison playfully refers to the behaviors that cause things to go awry as frog farming. These are the times you unintentionally engage with men in ways that bring out their worst and make them more guarded, less available, and less loving.
While it may seem that this is occurring merely because you’re with the wrong guy, the words you use, the tone of your voice, and other subtle signals would probably affect a “better guy” similarly. Rather than open up to you, he, too, may build a wall — or just disappear.
In fact, because men’s brains are wired differently than ours, the very things that might bond women together — such as talking excitedly and laughing together — can trigger defensiveness and a shutdown in men.
The same is true with specific word choices. As you’ll discover in Living the Queen’s Code, there is what Alison calls the “Language of Heroes” — words that instinctively call forth the gallant, noble, and generous parts of a man.
All it takes is knowing the fundamental characteristics of men to open to whole new possibilities.
As women, we often misinterpret male behavior. Too often, we assume we know how men think and feel, and therefore expect them to behave the way we do.
In our eyes, when a man comes up short — whether it’s lack of consideration, emotional unavailability, or anything really — we start turning him into a “fixer-upper” project, grooming him to be “better” in the ways that are in alignment with what we ourselves would do. The problem is that we then run against a man’s natural instincts. And this leads to resistance and defensiveness.
As you learn what compels, motivates, and inspires men so differently from women, you’ll see them through new eyes. And you’ll see how — by calling forth a man’s natural strengths — he’ll become more present, more generous, and more available.
And this applies not only to romantic partners, but to all men. When you understand their operating system, they naturally give you what you want from them in a spirit of generosity.
You can finally relax into being YOU... and feel seen and appreciated.
As you apply The Queen’s Code, men start to let their guard down and protect, appreciate, support, and honor you because they’re no longer protecting themselves.
Living the Queen’s Code is all about understanding what makes men tick and knowing how to engage and elicit their innate nobility. It’s about doing the subtle but important things that empower princes (and kings), while you stand in your own power.
It’s a whole new paradigm of relating that’s mutually respectful and enlivening. The real treasure of The Queen’s Code is that it enables you to stand FULLY in your power as a modern, conscious, amazing woman AND elicit the best in men.
As you do, you become more radiant, relaxed, and loving. You experience the benefits of men wanting to truly make you happy. Men have a natural reverence for women and an instinct to honor us, and we need to understand and nurture that dynamic.
Learning The Queen’s Code involves shifting your mindset, language, and behaviors in important ways. When you finally unlock the code, the door opens wide to a fulfilling relationship with a man who adores you — and whom you equally adore.
Living the Queen’s Code also makes you more magnetic to all the things you want to create in your life because you’re more naturally embodying your best Self. Your relationships with men at work, in your community, and in your extended family also improve, often dramatically.
When you join Alison’s empowering online program, you’ll have a chance to journey through the amazing story of The Queen’s Code — which is told as a riveting tale of transformation — with the author herself guiding you through each chapter, revealing the backstory, and taking you deeper into the core insights.
During the program, we’ll create a real sisterhood (and welcome in men as well!) — laughing, crying, speaking our truths, sharing our stories, and embarking on a fulfilling new way of relating.
Throughout the 8 parts of the program, you’ll discover:
- How to understand the male “operating system,” and what makes it different from the way we think, feel, connect, and react as women
- What it means to be a feelings-based organism, and how to honor your feelings powerfully
- How showing curiosity toward the men in your life will get you further than making assumptions
- How to start asking for what you need in a way that inspires men to meet your needs
- How your expectations of other people can damage your self-esteem
- Why the protector and provider archetypes are so important to men (and how to work with them rather than against them)
- How emasculation and objectification trigger each other
- Why even subtle complaints can turn a man who would naturally protect you into someone who’s defensive and remote
- Significant shifts in word choices to call forth the best in men
Alison Armstrong is one of the most globally renowned relationship experts for a reason — she’s brilliant, delightful, and she’s done her research. The insights from The Queen’s Code have proven to work for thousands of women who are now far happier in their relationships with men (and many have the partnership of their dreams!).
During the course, you’ll have many aha! moments about the hidden reasons WHY you've experienced challenges with men — and how you can turn them around.
You’ll emerge with a real shift in your understanding of men, empowerment, and how to attract (and grow) the relationship of your dreams.
Note that while the content of this course is geared toward women, adventurous and curious men are completely welcome to participate too!
What You’ll Discover in These 8 Modules
In this 8-part transformational intensive, Alison will guide you through The Queen’s Code, which reveals the secret code to understanding men and offers a sacred code of honor for women. It shows you how to get what you need from men while respecting yourself — and men. It’s sure to transform the way you relate to men and to teach you how to enhance your relationships by using the Language of Heroes with a powerful, inspiring attitude.
Alison Armstrong is a storyteller, and believes in the extraordinary educational, transformational, and healing moments available through fiction. You’ll be taken behind the scenes, deep into the engaging characters and lessons of The Queen’s Code ebook, which is included in your registration.
Ideally, participants will read the corresponding chapter of The Queen’s Code before each session. While Alison’s work is geared toward women, men seeking to understand the 21st-century woman — and what she’s struggling with — are more than welcome too!
Each course session will build harmoniously upon the previous ones so you’ll develop a complete holistic understanding of the practices, tools, and principles you’ll need to access the secret code for understanding men and receive the respect, devotion, and love you desire.
Chapter 1: Revelations (June 3)
What if there’s a single source underlying your struggles and heartache with men? Through eight diverse and surprising characters in The Queen’s Code ebook, you’ll uncover your own beliefs about men and relationships — and discover what you’re willing to risk to understand them.
In this session, you’ll:
- Find out the mysterious process through which this story revealed itself to Alison
- Learn how to use the eight characters of The Queen’s Code to see your blind spots about yourself and the opposite sex
- Be provoked and inspired to engage in your own self-reflection, and to articulate what you need in relationships, what you can’t live without, and how your own strategies and dreams conflict
- Start questioning what you believe about men, trust, and communication
- Explore how to be the kind of woman who turns frogs into princes (and stops turning princes into frogs!)
Chapter 2: The Journey Begins (June 10)
As Karen and Kimberlee (in The Queen’s Code ebook) embark on their journey to understand men, they find out what’s at the source of their frustration, anger, hurt, and disappointment with men. And yet, like real women, it’s hard to let go...
In this session, you’ll:
- Explore the effects of your inherited point of view in every interaction and relationship in your life
- Find out how your expectations of other people damage your self-esteem
- See how female instincts compel us to contort, suppress, and conceal the essence of who we are, while driving us to exhaustion
- Begin to confront the fundamentals of being a frog farmer: a woman who brings out the worst in men
Chapter 3: Hatpins, Stilettos & Swords (June 17)
Without consciously choosing to do so, every woman learns to emasculate men. It seems like a natural way to regulate, “train,” and motivate them, while protecting ourselves from unchecked testosterone. Our culture condones, even promotes, emasculation. But what if it’s causing men to respond to women in the exact opposite way we really want and need?
In this session, you’ll:
- Find out which Queen’s Code character you most resemble in your approach to emasculation — are you stealthy or nuclear?... cancerous or hit-and-run?
- See the short- and long-term effects of emasculation in your relationships
- Discover how you also emasculate other women and yourself
- Learn how emasculation and objectification trigger each other
- Explore the four layers of protection against criticism
- Find out if you’re ready to lay down the sword and take on being in partnership with men, women, and your best self
Chapter 4: Liberation & Illumination (June 24)
If criticism and complaining never motivate men, what does? As soon as Claudia teaches Kimberlee and Karen the first word in the "Language of Heroes,” you’ll begin challenging your ability to receive from men. You’ll also find out what’s at the heart of every man.
In this session, you’ll:
- Embrace what it means to be a feelings-based organism and learn how to use those feelings powerfully
- Learn to focus on the result instead of the process — and end up with more of what you need
- Find out what you should be taking personally, and never do
- Start asking others for what you need in a way that inspires and appreciates
- Zero in on how men are already taking care of you in ways that you may not have noticed
Chapter 5: Pumpkin Hours to Desserts (July 8)
From the very beginning of The Queen’s Code story, Kimberlee is terrified of talking to Claudia about sex. In this chapter, you’ll sympathize with her squirming while Mike and Karen articulate what sex provides in a long-term relationship as they learn about Delicious Sexual Partnerships. And then you’ll share in Kimberlee’s healing as Claudia reveals what she’s always known.
In this session, you’ll:
- Examine your own attachment to wanting sex in order to have it
- Begin to articulate what sex provides for you, in every context
- Learn the variety of “Jump Starts” we’ve discovered in men and women
- Explore your own Pumpkin Hours, whether they be daily, seasonal, or circumstantial
- Validate what you need to be happy to receive and provide sexual attention
Chapter 6: The Breaking Point (July 15)
All of the information and attitude adjustments revealed in The Queen’s Code thus far lead Karen and Kimberlee up to this point. Finally, they learn how men relate to their needs — and how men relate to their own needs. This knowledge gives them the key to receiving their heart’s desire.
In this session, you’ll:
- Learn the easiest ways to translate your needs into clear and compelling requests
- Find out the top 3 things that will prevent a man from providing for you
- Begin making deals that transform your daily life into a source of joy and empowerment
- Confront the most important question you can ask yourself and your partner
Chapter 7: Beyond the Damsel in Distress (July 22)
Our friends can break our hearts too. In this chapter of The Queen’s Code, as Kimberlee and Karen learn two more words in the "Language of Heroes,” Kimberlee discovers how far she has come from being a successful frog farmer. Transformed to her core, the chasm between her and her best friend comes to a dramatic conclusion.
In this session, you’ll:
- See where you set people up to lose by not asking for help soon enough
- Come to terms with a predictable lecture that you likely give to men
- Begin recognizing who in your life responds with “Yes, what?” to your needs
- Learn where “accountability” is sucking the life out of you
- Examine your own relationship to the emasculation of men
Chapter 8: The Soul of a Man (July 29)
In this final session, you'll see if you can recognize the soul of a man. Are you willing to honor who they want to be for you? Claim your own growth and accomplishments as The Queen’s Code characters Claudia, Karen, and Kimberlee step into the next adventures of their lives.
In this session, you’ll:
- Learn how to sort your accountabilities so you feel energized and empowered
- Confront your own challenges with the sixth word in the "Language of Heroes”
- Notice the heroes in your life — in events large and small
- Acknowledge how you have transformed your life and relationships with men
- Share your victories with Alison
- Take on what’s next for you in living the Queen’s Code of Honor
The Living the Queen’s Code Bonus Collection
(Valued at Over $200.00!)
In addition to Alison’s life-changing 8-part virtual course, you’ll receive these powerful training sessions. These bonus sessions complement the Living the Queen’s Code course and promise to take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.
The Queen’s Code
Ebook by Alison Armstrong With Videos
Learn the words. Shift your perception. Transform the way you see yourself and men. It’s fun. It’s fascinating. And it will change your life. Imagine learning the words that speak to the heart of a man and move him to act on your behalf... Imagine that a simple shift in your perception of men can cause a dramatic increase in their love and admiration for you. Whether you got here out of fear or frustration, hope or encouragement, The Queen’s Code journey will be rewarding for you. Enjoy cracking the code on men!
Keys to the Kingdom
Ebook From Alison Armstrong
This is a story of love, friendship, and rekindled romance during a man’s midlife crisis. Follow the lives of four unforgettable characters as they learn to understand each other in a profoundly heartwarming way. It will change the way you see all the men in your life — past, present, and future.
Journey to the Center of You
4.5-Hour Audio Training With PDF Handouts From Alison Armstrong
Our satisfaction at any moment is determined by how our priorities are fulfilled or frustrated by our life and our partners. Only one problem — we may not know what they are, and our partners have no idea what we need or why!
In this bonus teaching from Alison, you’ll:
- Discover which of the 5 Major Modes (of Living and Loving) matter to you the most
- See how your unique expression of these 5 modes may confuse people as to who you really are and what you’re really up to
- Focus on what’s important to you while gaining compassion for what’s important to the people you love
- Transform blindness, frustration, and disrespect into clarity, compassion, and honor
- Laugh and watch the light bulbs go off as we illuminate the invisible!
- Hear Alison’s answers to common questions asked by participants during the live program
What Graduates ofLiving the Queen’s Code Are Saying...
“I see a difference in how my boss is responding to me already...”
This class was awesome! Great material that no one else teaches... I am using the material and what I’ve learned at work, and practicing it with all men. I see a difference in how my boss is responding to me already, and I am giving better "green light" messages to men I am interested in dating. The best investment!
— Bette, New York, New York
“I feel like we are newlyweds, only better.”
I’m happier than I have ever been in my life and my relationship feels new and young. I’m 62 years old and have been married 22 years. I feel like we are newlyweds, only better. This course helped me partner more powerfully with my husband, and thereby have two empowered people in an extraordinary partnership.
— Bettymae, Dallas, Texas
“... an end to the gender war that has been going on for so long.”
This course brings understanding and hope for a better future in relationships between men and women. It brings what this world was hoping for in order to put an end to the gender war that has been going on for so long. In that sense, I would suggest Alison Armstrong’s name for the Nobel Prize of Peace.
— Sylvie Dubuc, Montreal, Canada
“... freedom to honor and love myself as never before.”
The benefit of participating inLiving the Queen’s Code for me is a complete shift in my perception... This, in turn, has given me the freedom to honor and love myself as never before. I’m in love with life, and with possibility.
— Julie, Alpena, Michigan
“It makes me want to celebrate men and always look for the good in each one of them.”
It’s completely changed my relationships with men... I feel this information could transform the world because it helps us understand one another and provide a space for deeper appreciation. It makes me want to celebrate men and always look for the good in each one of them. So much gratitude for this wisdom! Thank you, Alison!
— Kristie, Phoenix, Arizona
“Things are more loving, and it just feels sooooo good!”
I experience a better relationship with my husband. I cherish and understand him better. He feels it and responds. Things are more loving, and it just feels sooooo good! I think that if everyone took this course, the rift between men and women would close and the world would have soooo much more love and compassion for one another. That equals much less unneeded suffering.
— Megan Paterson, Corvallis, Oregon
“Understanding my man in this way has saved our relationship...”
The insights that Alison brought to me were eye opening. Understanding my man in this way has saved our relationship and allowed me to grow into more of my “queen” and receive and enjoy it.
— Janelle Reno, Nevada
“... I was astonished at the shift of what I was witnessing.”
Once I began practicing the ‘message’ of The Queen’s Code in real time with real men, I was astonished at the shift of what I was witnessing. After passing along a few gems to my daughter-in-law, she too found the message to be remarkable in her world as well.
— Yasmin, Half Moon Bay, California
“It strengthened our relationship, and the outcome is that we are happy and thriving!”
Our marriage was on a collision course for divorce. The Queen’s Code helped both my husband and me see things about each other in refreshing, positive, and in some cases, new ways. It strengthened our relationship, and the outcome is that we are happy and thriving!
— Lisa, Colorado
“... the information I needed to completely transform the way I relate not only to men but to other women, my children, and most of all, myself.”
Alison has provided the information I needed to completely transform the way I relate not only to men but to other women, my children, and most of all, myself. Highly recommend this course to anyone who strives to find true partnership and authenticity in life.
— Anonymous
Here’s What You’ll Receive
Eight 105-Minute Recorded Class Sessions With Alison Armstrong
Experience a rare opportunity to learn from relationship expert and author of The Queen’s Code Alison Armstrong — from the comfort of your own home. You’ll be guided to discover specific skills and abilities to honor yourself and transform your relationships with men.
Eight PDF Transcripts of Class Sessions
In addition to the high-quality videos and MP3 audios, you’ll also receive the entire class transcription in PDF format. You can then review, print, and highlight the most important insights and practices you were given.
Interactive Exercises and Questions for Each Lesson
Between class sessions, you’ll have the option of completing related exercises, practicing new tools, and answering questions to accelerate your learning and integrate each lesson.
The Living the Queen’s Code Bonus Collection
- Keys to the Kingdom
Ebook From Alison Armstrong
- Journey to the Center of You
4.5-Hour Audio Training With PDF Handouts From Alison Armstrong
- The Queen’s Code
Ebook by Alison Armstrong With Videos
An Unprecedented Opportunity to Join the Living the Queen’s Code Virtual Training
We feel honored Alison Armstrong has chosen to partner with The Shift Network to offer this exclusive online training. This is a rare opportunity to learn from a relationship educator and advocate whose powerful insights and pioneering work help us heal and empower ourselves, our relationships — and our world.
Through this powerful online format, you’ll not only save time and money on workshop costs (plus travel, accommodations, and meals — which would cost thousands of dollars), you’ll be able to benefit from Alison’s incredible teachings and exercises from the comfort of your home — and at your own pace!
If you are serious about transforming your relationships so you can stand in your power, while also inspiring men to be their most noble and loving selves, then you owe it to yourself, your loved ones, and our world to take this one-of-a-kind training.
If you’re ready to take the next step in evolving yourself, click the register button below to reserve your space now.
Your Satisfaction Is 100% Guaranteed!
Your satisfaction is 100% guaranteed! If you don’t absolutely LOVE Living the Queen's Code with Alison Armstrong — or don’t feel that it meets your needs — please contact our friendly Support Team on or before June 17, 2019 and we’ll happily issue you a refund.
More Praise for Alison Armstrong...
“In always humorous and easy to understand ways, she reveals how men and women can understand each other...”
We are not born knowing the secrets to a long, happy relationship. Fortunately, Alison Armstrong has dedicated her life to this! In always humorous and easy to understand ways, she reveals how men and women can understand each other, resulting in relationships filled with love, satisfaction and contentment. (And who doesn’t want that!) Quit trying to figure this out on your own — run, don’t walk to her next workshop. I promise you will be glad you did.
— Arielle Ford, Author of The Soulmate Secret and Wabi Sabi Love
“... the most original life-changing content on the planet...”
Alison Armstrong has created the most original life-changing content on the planet, it literally saved my life. Who knew that understanding men — and women in the process — could be the catalyst for peace and a sense of safety in my life I had been yearning for. If you want to create a life of possibility for you, and the whole planet, seek out Alison’s material, there is literally nothing better out there.
— Jennifer McLean, Author, speaker, healer, host of Healing With The Masters
“... I can see men in a new and more loving way.”
Alison’s deep understanding and love of men moved me to a whole other level of clarity and peace about a gender that has confounded me for a long time. I feel like the wool has been pulled from my eyes and I can see men in a new and more loving way.
— Alanis Morissette, Singer-songwriter
“[Alison] has directly impacted my life and helped me take my relationship from awesome to OUTSTANDING!”
Alison Armstrong is the real deal. I don’t know anyone else who understands men and women the way that Alison does. She has directly impacted my life and helped me take my relationship from awesome to OUTSTANDING! I love her so much!
— Mastin Kipp, CEO and Founder of The Daily Love
“... the most powerful paradigm shifter I have ever found on...”
Every woman, young or not, married or not, in a romantic relationship or not, should have this information. There is no chance for relationships with men if we do not change our paradigm. This is the most powerful paradigm shifter I have ever found in this regard.
— Monica G.
“Would I have had this knowledge three years ago, I might not be separated from the father of my children.”
Would I have had this knowledge three years ago, I might not be separated from the father of my children. This insight has been highly healing to me and I see the masculine in a beautiful new light!
— Anonymous
“... relating to men in a more understanding and rewarding way.”
I have been able to begin earnest practice in relating to men in a more understanding and rewarding way. I feel very grateful that this gift has come into my life.
— Maria Monti, Seattle, Washington
“It has profoundly changed my view of and my experience with men.”
Reading The Queen’s Code and doing the course has transformed my relationship to men like nothing else I’ve ever done. And I’ve read a lot before and done classes on that too. I’ve moved from being sad and unhappy in my relationships with men to a being very supported by my happy and devoted partner and having good relationships with men across the board. It has profoundly changed my view of and my experience with men. I don’t know anyone who can teach you how to understand, appreciate, and live in partnership with men like Alison Armstrong can.
— Anonymous
“... reshaped my attitude toward men, improved my marriage, and gave me direction and confidence.”
This cutting edge course reshaped my attitude toward men, improved my marriage, and gave me direction and confidence. What a relief to break from conventional ideologies and learn from someone who has listened to and learned what is really going on.
— Joan Falk, PhD, New York
“I love men again.”
— Anonymous
About Alison Armstrong
Alison Armstrong is an author, educator, and the creator of the widely acclaimed book, The Queen’s Code, as well as the Understanding Men and Women online curriculum, which together ask the question: “What if no one is misbehaving — including you?” She explores the good reasons behind the behavior of men and women, such as fundamental differences in the ways we think, act, and communicate — and offers simple, partnership-based solutions to improve our communication and intimacy by honoring ourselves and others. Alison is known for her insight, sense of humor, and ability to articulate the human experience and predicament of gender.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What’s a virtual course?
A: It’s a great way to engage live and pre-recorded teachings and each other from the comfort of your home! All you need is a computer, mobile device, or telephone. If there’s more than one person in your household taking the course, you’ll each need your own connection. We use Zoom videoconferencing to make it just like an in-person event, where you can ask questions and deepen your exploration of the course themes.
There’s no additional charge for connecting to Zoom with your computer or mobile device. Please note that dialing Zoom from your telephone is a toll call; your telephone service provider will charge you according to your existing long-distance calling plan. International access numbers are available.
“I’ve never seen a course so well put together ever...”
I had never participated before in an online course. The packaging, presentation, inclusion, and Facebook postings created a wonderful, safe cocoon within which to participate. I’ve never seen a course so well put together ever — not in all the years of taking college classes — and I had my doubts about doing an online course. The wealth of organization and ease of learning materials and support made this fun as well.
— Claudia F., Medford, Massachusetts
Q: Can I get benefit from the course if I miss the live classes?
A: Absolutely! You can download the recordings and transcripts of all course sessions from our online media archive, so you never need to worry about missing live calls. You can also engage the full community and leaders on our private online community group.
Q: Can you tell me about the private online community group?
A: We’ll have a private online community group for all course participants on Facebook that will support you in making connections with others, sharing insights, engaging in discussions, and completing homework assignments that can supplement your transformational journey. You’ll have the ability to share your experiences, projects, and growth throughout the course.
Q: Are there scholarships available for this training?
A: Yes, we always make a certain percentage of spaces available for partial scholarships, giving preference to those in developing countries or doing important but underpaid work to which they can apply the training material immediately. If you’d like to apply for a scholarship, please review our guidelines, which include a link to our online application form.
Q: What’s your refund policy?
A: Your satisfaction with The Shift Network and this course is our highest priority! We offer a satisfaction guarantee so that you can sample the course risk-free. The deadline to receive a full refund is June 17, 2019. To request a refund, please click on this refund request form and submit your request. Your refund will be processed within five business days and we’ll send you an email confirming your refund. However, we’d love to have a chance to address and resolve your concerns first. If there’s something we can assist you with, please email us at support@theshiftnetwork.com and we’ll be happy to help! (No refund requests accepted after the above date or with scholarship awards.)
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