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Alison Armstrong
Tuesday, October 27, 2015
Learn simple, but powerful, approaches to enjoy far more fulfilling relationships with men — all the while, feeling more alive and
empowered yourself.
Receive the secret codes that enable you to understand and get what you want from men naturally, leading them to treat you with the respect, devotion and honor you desire.
If you’re like most women striving to live life consciously, you’ve gotten stronger, wiser and more liberated over the years. You might have an exciting career, a deep inner life, and a community of women friends that you love.
But you may still be challenged by your relationships with men and not able to find that special someone to share your life with. It may seem that there just aren’t many good, conscious men available. And even when you find a “good one,” things may go sour. Over time, he may slowly become less generous, communicative or loving. He may “tune out” more often or have bursts of anger and frustration.
Slowly but surely, the relationship withers, no matter how hard you try to make it work.
A common solution is to cast a wider net: more dates, more online profiles, more hoping that around the next corner you’ll find The One. You may have a detailed list of what you’re looking for in your soulmate, which you visualize every day. You may do everything you can to make yourself attractive for that prospective soulmate. The goal becomes simply to “find him.”
However, that approach misses a crucial part of the equation, which is the subtle signals and ways of relating that may be pushing away your potential Beloved or even slowly turning him into a frog, rather than a Prince, once you’ve found him.
In Living The Queen’s Code, an all-new online program based on The Queen’s Code book, you can have a real breakthrough in your relationships with men, opening you to the kind of partnership you’ve dreamed of.
The teacher, Alison Armstrong, playfully refers to the signals that lead things to go awry as “Frog Farming.” Frog Farming happens when you unknowingly engage with men in a way that brings out their worst, causing them to become more defended, less available, less generous and less loving. They start protecting themselves and become more guarded.
While it may seem that this is occurring because you’re merely with the wrong guy, the truth is that you are far more powerful and impactful on men than you might think. The words you use, the tone of voice and other subtle signals can affect men in profound ways, leading them to wall off rather than open up.
Even with the best of intentions, you can unknowingly be contributing to a man shutting down and starting to exhibit some of the most maddening behaviors.
The truth is that because men’s brains are wired differently than women’s, the very things that might bond women together — such as excitedly talking and laughing together — can trigger defensiveness and a shutdown in men.
The same is true of specific word choices. As you will learn Living the Queen’s Code, there is what Alison calls the “Language of Heroes,” words that instinctively calls forth the gallant, noble and generous parts of a man. All it takes is knowing the cues and you can open whole new possibilities.
Another area of where we women our challenged is in how we interpret men’s behaviors, which is often based on an unconscious assessment of what a WOMAN would have done.
When a man comes up short on this internal scale – whether it has to do with cleanliness, consideration or emotional availability — we start turning him into a “fixer-upper” project, grooming him to be “better” in the ways that are in alignment with what we would do, yet that run against a man’s natural patterns. And this leads to more resistance and defense.
As we learn the actual biology and psychology that make men different than women, we see them through new eyes. We understand that by calling forth a man’s natural strengths — he will become kinder, more generous and more available.
This applies not only to romantic partners but to all men. When you understand the operating system of men, they more naturally give you what you are wanting from them in a spirit of generosity.
You can finally relax into being YOU and feeling seen and appreciated.
As you learn to apply The Queen’s Code, men start to let down their guard and naturally want to protect, support and honor you because they are no longer protecting themselves.
Living the Queen’s Code is all about understanding what makes men tick and knowing how to engage and elicit the latent nobility in a man. It’s about doing the subtle but important things that grow Princes (and Kings), all while you stand even more strongly and beautifully in your own power.
The good news is that you can shift to a whole new paradigm of relating, one that is both pro-woman and pro-man. In fact, the real secret in The Queen’s Code is that you can stand FULLY in your power as a modern, conscious, amazing woman AND elicit the best in men.
As you do, you become more radiant, relaxed and loving. You experience the benefits of men wanting to truly make you happy. Men have a natural reverence for women and an instinct to honor us, IF we can understand and help to create the dynamic in which that natural instinct is encouraged to arise.
Learning The Queen’s Code involves shifting your mindset, language and behaviors in subtle but important ways. When you finally unlock the code, the door opens wide to a fulfilling relationship with a man that adores you — and that you equally adore.
Living the Queen’s Code also makes you more magnetic to all the things you want to create in your life because you’re more naturally embodying your feminine Self. Your relationships with men on the job, in your community and in your extended family also improve, often dramatically.
The Queen’s Code represents a new wave of feminism that allows you to be delightfully feminine as well as totally empowered.
When you join Alison’s special online program, you’ll have a chance to journey through the amazing story of The Queen’s Code — which is told as a riveting tale of transformation — with the author herself, guiding you through each chapter and revealing the backstory and taking you deeper into the core insights.
During the program, we will create a real sisterhood (and welcome in some men as well!) — laughing, speaking our truths, sharing our sagas, and embarking on a whole new way of relating.
Alison is SO looking forward to this journey, a chance to share the many dimensions of The Queen’s Code that didn’t make it into the book, while also offering you a chance to deepen into practices in the book that apply to you.
During the 8 weeks of the program, you will learn:
- To embrace what it means to be a feelings-based organism and learn how to use those feelings powerfully.
- How to understand the male “operating system ” and what makes it different from the way women operate.
- Why curiosity about men will get you further than
making assumptions - How to start asking for what you need in a way that inspires
- How your expectations of other people can damage your self-esteem
- Why the protector and provider archetypes are so important to men (and how to work with them rather than against them)
- How emasculation and objectification trigger each other
- Why even subtle complaints can turn a man who would naturally protect you into someone who is defended and remote
- How simple shifts in word choices to the “Language of Heroes” can call forth the best in men
Alison Armstrong has become one of the most globally renowned relationship experts for a reason — she’s brilliant, delightful — and she’s done her research. The insights from The Queen’s Code have been proven to work for thousands of women who are now far happier in their relationships with men (and many have the partnerships of their dreams!).
During the course, you’ll have many “ah-ha’s” about the often subtle reasons WHY things may have been challenging for you with men — and how you can turn them around.
You’ll emerge with a real shift in your understanding of men, relationship, empowerment, and how to attract (and grow) the relationship of your dreams.
Note that while the content of this course is geared to women, adventurous and curious men are welcome to participate as well!
What You’ll Discover in These 8 Weeks
Course sessions are on Tuesdays at 12:00pm Pacific.
In this brand new 8-week training, Alison will guide you through The Queen’s Code, which reveals the secret code to understanding men, and offers a sacred code of honor for women. It shows women how to get what they need from men while also respecting themselves — and men. It transforms the way women relate to men and teaches them to enhance their relationships and their results by using “The Language of Heroes” with a powerful, inspiring attitude.
Alison Armstrong is a storyteller, and believes in the extraordinary educational, transformational and healing moments available through fiction. Participants will be taken behind the scenes, deeper into the engaging characters and lessons of The Queen’s Code, which is included in your registration. Each session includes an hour of clarification and additional material from Alison, followed by a half-hour Q&A, when she’ll act as your encyclopedia of men and women.
Ideally, participants will read the corresponding chapter of The Queen’s Code ebook before each session. While geared toward women, men seeking to understand the 21st century woman — and what she’s struggling with — are more than welcome!
Module 1: Revelations (October 27)
What if there’s a single source underlying your struggles and heartache with men? Through eight diverse and surprising characters, reveal your own beliefs about men and relationships. Discover what you are willing to risk to understand men and women.
In this session, you will:
- Find out the mysterious process by which this story revealed itself to the author.
- Learn how to use the eight characters of The Queen’s Code to see your blind spots about yourself and the opposite sex.
- Be provoked and inspired to engage in your own self-reflection: to articulate what you need in relationships; what you can’t live without; and how your own strategies and dreams conflict.
- Begin questioning what you believe about men, trust and communication.
- Decide if you’re going be the kind of woman who turns Frogs into Princes, or keeps turning Princes into Frogs.
Module 2: The Journey Begins (November 3)
As Karen and Kimberlee (in The Queen’s Code ebook) embark on their journey to understand men, they find out what’s at the source of their frustration, anger, hurt and disappointment with men. And yet, like real women, it’s hard to let go... yet, it seems we have no better alternative.
In this session, you will:
- Explore the effects of your inherited point-of-view in every interaction and relationship in your life.
- Find out how your expectations of other people damage your self-esteem.
- See how female instincts compel us to contort, suppress and conceal the essence of who we are, while driving us to exhaustion.
- Begin to confront the fundamentals of being a Frog Farmer: a woman who brings out the worst in men.
Module 3: Hatpins, Stilettos & Swords (November 10)
Without consciously choosing to do so, every woman learns to emasculate men. It seems like the ultimate way to regulate, train and motivate them, while protecting ourselves from unchecked testosterone. Our culture condones, even promotes, emasculation. But what if it’s causing men to respond to women in the exact opposite way we really want and need?
In this session, you will:
- Find out which Queen’s Code character you most resemble in your approach to emasculation — are you stealthy or nuclear? Cancerous or hit-and-run?
- See the short- and long-term effects of emasculation in your relationships.
- Discover how you emasculate more than men — including other women and yourself.
- Learn how emasculation and objectification trigger each other.
- Explore the four layers of protection against criticism.
- Find out if you’re ready to lay down the sword and take on being in partnership with men, women and your best self.
Module 4: Liberation & Illumination (November 17)
If criticism and complaining never motivate men, what does? In The Queen’s Code ebook, as Claudia teaches Kimberlee and Karen the first word in “The Language of Heroes,” you’ll begin challenging your ability to receive from men. You’ll also find out what’s at the heart of every man.
In this session, you will:
- Embrace what it means to be a feelings-based organism and learn how to use those feelings powerfully.
- Learn to focus on the result instead of the process — and end up with more of what you need.
- Find out what you should be taking personally, and never do.
- Start asking others for what you need in a way that inspires and appreciates.
- Zero in on how men are already taking care of you in ways that you may have never noticed.
Module 5: Pumpkin Hours to Desserts (November 24)
From the very beginning of The Queen’s Code story, Kimberlee is terrified of talking to Claudia about sex. In this module, you’ll sympathize with her squirming while Mike and Karen articulate what sex provides in a long-term relationship, as they learn about Delicious Sexual Partnerships. And then you’ll share in Kimberlee’s healing as Claudia reveals what she’s always known.
In this session, you will:
- Examine your own attachment to wanting sex in order to have it.
- Begin to articulate what sex provides for you, in every context.
- Learn the variety of “Jump Starts” we’ve discovered in men and women.
- Explore your own Pumpkin Hours, whether they be daily, seasonal or circumstantial.
- Validate what you need to be happy to receive and provide sexual attention.
Module 6: The Breaking Point (December 1)
All of the information and attitude adjustments revealed in The Queen’s Code thus far lead Karen and Kimberlee up to this point. Finally, they learn how men relate to their needs as well how men relate to their own needs. This knowledge gives them the key to receiving their Heart’s Desire, without having to deserve it first.
In this session, you will:
- Learn the easiest ways to translate your needs into clear and compelling requests.
- Find out the top 3 things that will prevent a man from providing for you.
- Begin making deals that transform your daily life into a source of joy and empowerment.
- Confront the most important question you can ask yourself and your partner.
Module 7: Beyond the Damsel in Distress (December 8)
Our friends can break our hearts, too. In this chapter of The Queen’s Code, as Kimberlee and Karen learn two more words in “The Language of Heroes,” Kimberlee discovers how far she has come from being a very successful Frog Farmer. Transformed to her core, the chasm between her and her best friend comes to a dramatic conclusion.
In this session, you will:
- See where you set people up to lose by not asking for help soon enough.
- Come to terms with a predictable lecture that you likely give to men.
- Begin recognizing who in your life is “Yes, what?” to your needs.
- Learn where “Accountability” is sucking the life out of you.
- Examine your own relationship to men being emasculated.
Module 8: The Soul of a Man (December 15)
In this final session, see if you can recognize the soul of a man. Are you willing to honor who they want to be for you? Claim your own growth and accomplishments as Queen’s Code characters Claudia, Karen and Kimberlee step into the next adventures of their lives.
In this session, you will:
- Learn how to sort your accountabilities so you feel energized and empowered.
- Confront your own challenges with the sixth word in “The Language of Heroes”
- Notice the heroes in your life — in events big and small.
- Acknowledge how you have transformed your life and relationships with men.
- Share your victories with Alison.
- Take on what’s next for you in living the Queen’s Code of Honor.
The Living the Queen’s Code Bonus Collection
In addition to Alison’s transformative 8-week virtual course, you’ll also receive these powerful training sessions with the world’s leading visionaries and teachers. These bonus sessions are being offered to further complement what you’ll learn in the course — and take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.
The Queen’s Code
Ebook by Alison Armstrong with Videos
Learn the words. Shift your perception. Transform the way you see yourself and men. It’s fun. It’s fascinating. And it will change your life. Imagine learning the words that speak to the heart of a man and move him to act on your behalf... Imagine that a simple shift in your perception of men can cause a dramatic increase in their love and admiration for you. Whether you got here out of fear or frustration, hope or encouragement, The Queen’s Code journey will be rewarding for you. Enjoy cracking the code on men!
The Appreciation Equation
2.5 Hour Audio Course from Alison Armstrong
Do you have anyone in your life that appears stubborn? Resistant? Hard to work with? Or are you the one that’s lost your passion and energy for your work or relationship? In this recording of a live teleclass, Alison will teach you the predictable outcomes of the Appreciation Equation — and how to use that knowledge to cause more joy, satisfaction, cooperation and productivity.
Healing Your Heart, Restoring Your Honor
2.5 Hour Audio Course from Alison Armstrong
When a woman’s feelings are hurt and never healed, she withdraws from life, love (and usually sex) bit by bit. When the masculine, in a woman or man, is dishonored it creates a compelling need to prove something that is never satisfied. Both injuries to the masculine and feminine can create insatiable needs — for approval, attention, love, sex, even food. These insatiable needs can “hijack” your life. Noble Healing has the ability to fill in those places in our hearts and souls, and completely heal the wounds we carry. The result: an open space to be yourself, free from proving and self-protection. Your life can return to being a natural, unfolding expression of your essence, your beauty and your genius.
What People Are Saying About
Alison Armstrong...
We are not born knowing the secrets to a long, happy relationship. Fortunately, Alison Armstrong has dedicated her life to this! In always humorous and easy to understand ways, she reveals how men and women can understand each other, resulting in relationships filled with love, satisfaction and contentment. (And who doesn’t want that!) Quit trying to figure this out on your own — run, don’t walk to her next workshop. I promise you will be glad you did.
– Arielle Ford, Author of The Soulmate Secret and Wabi Sabi Love
Every woman, young or not, married or not, in a romantic relationship or not should have this information. There is no chance for relationships with men if we do not change our paradigm. This is the most powerful paradigm shifter I have ever found on this regard.
– Monica G.
I have been doing "inner work" for many many years. How to have the grandest of loves was something I still struggled with. Alison’s understanding of both men and women is astounding. I have listened to her workshop, Celebrating Partnerships, as well. It is my mission to continue the work with this truly gifted woman. I feel so grateful to have found her and feel like I am on my way to the greatest love of all!
– Alice B.
Being a graduate of all of Alison Armstrong’s core curriculum, I loved how The Queen’s Code book brings pieces of each workshop back into mind and knits all of the information together so beautifully in a story that wraps you up so much you don’t want to put it down! I have recommended this book to all of my girlfriends and many other women I’ve come into contact with, and every single one who has read it, has thanked me. It is a great introduction to being a Queen and truly changing your life and your relationships!
– Sabrina Barella
When I meet people having trouble in relationships, I talk about The Queen’s Code book. With women leading competitive lives, it is more and more difficult for them to be vulnerable and safe while admiring men. The Queen’s Code helps women see their preconceptions of men and how that has been working. When women understand how they switch from masculine to feminine very quickly, they learn that men do not switch very quickly and need to be led into the feminine. They learn men are not misbehaving and truly want to provide everything a woman wants.
– Scott Gurnee
What I love most about Alison Armstrong is how she showcases her deep relationship and communication wisdom. In The Queen’s Code, she uses fiction as a method to present difficult issues from different character’s viewpoints allowing the reader to easily understand the different perspectives men and women can have of the same life events. This format is truly the best way to experience and absorb her solutions for many common relationship issues. (It’s also more fun than reading another sterile self-help book.)
– Vincent Sherwood
My husband had been telling me for years how best to communicate with him. It was not until I read The Queen’s Code that I fully understood what he had been telling me. There it was! In this book! In a way I heard and understood! Better now than never, but oh how I wish I had known this much earlier in my life. Thank you for putting this information into an engaging, captivating, easy to read, hard-to-put-down book! My husband and I have had many conversations since I began reading this book. We are about to celebrate 21 years of marriage, and I am glad this book has opened all my senses to truly appreciate the hero my husband truly is. Thank you with deepest gratitude. My life has really changed as a result of The Queen’s Code.
– Ande M.
Here’s What You’ll Receive
Eight 90-Minute Recorded Class Sessions with Alison Armstrong
Experience a rare opportunity to be mentored and learn with transformational relationship expert Alison Armstrong — from the comfort of your own home. Each class session helps you create the specific skills and abilities to crack the code with understanding men.
Eight PDF Transcripts of
Class Sessions
In addition to the high quality MP3 audios, you’ll also receive the entire class transcription in PDF format after each session is completed. This way you can review, print and highlight the most important insights and practices that you’ll learn.
Exercises and Questions for Each Lesson
After each lesson, you will then have the option to do related exercises, practice new tools and answer questions in order to accelerate your learning.
The Living the Queen’s Code Bonus Collection
- The Queen’s Code
Ebook by Alison Armstrong with Videos
- The Appreciation Equation
2.5 Hour Audio Course from Alison Armstrong
- Healing Your Heart, Restoring Your Honor
2.5 Hour Audio Course from Alison Armstrong
An Unprecedented Opportunity to Join The Living the Queen’s Code Virtual Training
We at The Shift Network feel deeply honored that Alison Armstrong has chosen to partner with us on this exclusive online training. As you may know, this is a rare opportunity to learn directly from a relationship educator and advocate whose powerful insights and pioneering work helps us heal and empower ourselves, our relationships — and our world.
Through this powerful online format, you’ll not only save time and money on workshop costs (plus travel, accommodations and meals — which would cost thousands of dollars), you’ll be able to benefit from Alison’s incredible teachings and exercises from the comfort of your home — at your own pace!
If you are serious about transforming your relationships so you can stand in your power, while also inspiring men to be their most noble and loving selves, then you owe it to yourself, your loved ones and our world to take this one-of-a-kind training.
If you’re ready to take the next step in your evolution, click the register button below to reserve your space now.
About Alison Armstrong
Alison Armstrong, author, educator and creator of the widely acclaimed Queen’s Code workshop series and book that ask the question: "What if no one is misbehaving — including you?" She explores the good reasons behind the behavior of men and women, such as fundamental differences in the ways we think, act and communicate. She offers simple, partnership-based solutions to improve our communication and intimacy by honoring ourselves and others. Alison is known for her insight, sense of humor and ability to articulate the human experience and predicament of gender.
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